It’s funny when I think about it. So many of us try. Try for acceptance in society, from everyone really…even when we say we don’t care.
I recently read something along the lines of:
Stop trying to get people to love you and start spending time with those who already do.
I know. So much in one tiny little sentence [although, aren’t the best lines built that way]. It’s a difficult thing with societal pressure = “when are you getting married?”/ “when are you having babies, ker??” [both=no] / “when are you settling down with a house?” … [side note – Lindsay covered these topics so well last week]
Then there’s just the crazy pressure you put on yourself. Starting in grade school, it’s as if a “B” grade would be a failure = “you won’t get into the right school” / “it matters what everyone thinks of how I dress/look/talk/exist” << that is real talk, guys.
There’s also the element of who you surround yourself with. I wasn’t popular in high school. Quite frankly, it was rough. And I’ve made no secret about that. During that time in my life, I wasn’t surrounding myself with people who loved me – I was more concerned with trying to get everyone to like me. I know I wasn’t the only 16 year old trying to do this. Juggle it all. Survive.
As we get older, many of us believe we fade away from that mentality – but really…I think it sometimes gets worse, without even realizing it. Between work, making friends (and like me, moving to a new city all by myself), it’s tough.
But we have to stop trying.
Remind yourself that it doesn’t matter what everyone thinks. Not everyone is going to love us (and sure as shit if that’s not accurate for the blog world). And you know what? That’s ok.
Focus on the love you have around you and build up those relationships – the great ones you have right in front of you! The cliché phrase that it doesn’t matter how many friends you have, it’s the quality of friends that matters – couldn’t be more true. Stop trying to force love and just enjoy all the great love that already exists.
Life is too short. Stop trying.