Do you believe the Universe has your back? Can you wrap your head around the stars aligning just so to make sure you’re at a certain place during a specific time?
I know a good amount of you have some solid religious beliefs – things you’ve been raised with since before you can remember. And I love that. Me, on the other hand, did not. I’m a spiritual kinda girl. But that’s not what I’m talking about today.
Today, I’m talking about friendship. And the crazy rollercoaster rides that make it all worth it.
I know. I talk a lot about my friends – I admit it! I have my amazing support system here in Florida – you girls know who you are! I also have coveted friends too far away to discuss (read: Laur, you get me sister). Friendships come and friendships go. Memories are built and seemingly frozen in time. Before you know it, you can be close with someone and a moment later they could be gone – whether by choice or otherwise. And if you’re lucky, some are brought back to you, as if they never really left at all.
All of it takes strength. And it doesn’t always make sense. Friendships are weird like that.
A week or so ago, I talked to Laurie on the phone. This isn’t something we do as much anymore, so it was a moment I cherished. And somewhere in the middle of that call, through my ramblings of life updates and her willing ear, I took a deep breath and smiled. We’re at such different places in our lives now compared to when we met…when we were exactly the same. Life is so funny that way. But none of it matters. We still get each other like twins, and make each other laugh for days on end. At the end of the call, we made a pact to do this more often. “Like once a month,” we echoed. It filled my heart. And I know hers was full too.
Many moons without speaking words through a phone and no time lost? That’s friendship.
This past Sunday, I went to brunch (as you know). Unplanned and spontaneous – yes! My fav. Next thing I knew, I turned around to see my friend Joey. Joey! It had been about a year, I must say. In that moment, I jumped out of my chair, almost falling into his arms to give him the biggest hug I could manage. We made plans to catch up a few days later and my heart swelled.
We had drinks the other day, and after hours of chatting, we left with cheeks hurting from laughter and plans to meet again soon.
Life took us in different directions for a little while. No hurt feelings, only love…and the beginning of many more wine dates. That’s friendship.
I guess at the end of the day, it’s all a part of growing up and moving forward. We get married, we lose jobs, we suffer heartache, we find our way off the beaten path – whatever it may be. Those moments are part of our unique journeys. Friendships are like family to me – the good ones take work sometimes. They can make you want to pull out your hair, but they can also show you everything good.
Sometimes the Universe has your back, and sends you the friend you’ve missed so you can quote The League and talk shit about your former jobs. And sometimes the Universe has your friend text you an amazing new Instagram to follow because you both get each other. That’s love. That’s life. And that’s friendship.