Yeah, you read that right. I just threw the question right out there – do you hate yourself? But, first – a backstory.
The other night was spent scouring the Internets, as per usual, when I came across an article that highlighted a few quotes by my girl Mindy Kaling. Ok, it was Buzzfeed – so sue me. But, hey – sometimes we find inspiration in the strangest of places.
Mindy made some good points – and this one struck close to home (followed by the below quote).
“It’s not that I think I’m so great. I just don’t hate myself. I do idiotic things all the time and I say crazy stuff I regret, but I don’t let everything traumatize me. And the scary thing I have noticed is that some people really feel uncomfortable around women who don’t hate themselves. So that’s why you need to be a little bit brave.”
Let that sink in for a second.
Do you actually love yourself? All those deep and nasty flaws that make you that beautiful person who your friends and family see – that’s the good stuff. So often, we’re caught in these “Mean Girls moments” – you know what I’m talking about. Hell, I’ve done it.
And we’re inexplicably drawn to others just like us, when we’re in that self-loathing mode. But what good does it do?
I can honestly say that as I’m approaching yet another birthday (eek), I really don’t hate myself. And I finally get what Mindy is saying… I know my worth. I know I’m a hard worker when it comes to my job and I give it 110%. I also have confidence in my art – and I’m really proud of each piece I produce. I happen to think I’m pretty funny (usually more-so with bourbon, but hey) and sometimes other people laugh at my jokes as well. And lastly, I put my whole heart into the relationships I build. My true friends mean the world to me and I am truly grateful for each one of you!
Now, I guess I could go on regarding everything I love about myself (hello, my good hair, ha) – but that’s not the point of the post. And yeah, I have my flaws – including the fact I wish I could lose a few pounds, or maybe be a better listener at times…yadda yadda. Don’t we all have things we could improve upon? No one really likes a perfect person anyway.
At the end of the day, I challenge you all to take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself if you really love who you see – flaws and all. The good, bad, and the extra 5 pounds. Be a little brave, as Mindy says…and love what you see. I promise, it’s worth it.