It’s difficult to deny some sort of tie to the self-inflicted drama surrounding Harvey Weinstein. Whether you’ve experienced some form of discrimination, assault, or abuse of power…or simply have a strong opinion on the matter, this is a problem that affects everyone.
Men and women – you name it. Everyone has felt, or knows someone who has experienced, things that are not ok.
Last week, I posted on my Insta stories asking the question of whether or not I should write about this topic. Controversy! But to my surprise, only one follower said no. I didn’t want to put pressure on this either way – this is a topic we should have a healthy conversation around. And let’s be real, it’s my blog and I do what I want.
Harvey Weinstein embodies a man I have come across through various phases in my career, quite frankly since I began working at the age of 15. Each and every time it happened, I tried to shrug it off and even go as far as to say, “that is how men in power act.” BUT THAT IS A LIE. It shouldn’t be this way. And it’s not all men. Why would I ever think that? Have I been conditioned just so, where I couldn’t stand up for myself?
I refuse to stand down any longer.
At the age of 16, I was told to stand in front of my retail store job and bring customers in, as I was “the prettiest on staff.” After my boss hit on me and I refused to date him, he attempted to get me fired. Luckily, I left on my own terms. Later in my career, I was told that I would “never be better” than my boss, a male, who degraded women at every turn. These are only two examples…I don’t need to share it all. You get the picture I’m painting. And I don’t need to mention what’s gone on in my personal life.
There is a hashtag sweeping Twitter: #metoo – a powerful message rolled into 5 letters. Using it tells the world that this has happened, and we need to take time to talk about it. We need to take action, and no longer live in fear.
Mr. Weinstein is not the first person to come to power and abuse it in the form of rape and the degradation of women. If you open your eyes, you’ll see we have someone who has been put in the highest position of leadership in our country – who has many strikes against him in this very same area. Why aren’t we talking about this as much anymore? Are we numb to it all? Have we accepted this as normal? I refuse to see the day where any of this reigns true.
Everyone has something to say about Harvey Weinstein, and I’m glad women are using their voices to be heard. We all need to stand up – whether you’re a man or a woman – in this case it doesn’t matter. Stand up and let your voices travel far and wide. We don’t need to sit down and accept this as normal. And we don’t need to be silent any longer.
I want to echo Jennifer Lawrence’s words at Elle’s Women in Hollywood event the other night: “In a perfect world, every human being should have the power to be treated with respect because they’re human,” she told the audience.
Respect. Love. Compassion. Love is love is love is love.
^^ Special shout out to my momma who raised me to be a a strong, independent woman. I look up to her and continue to do so every day. Thank you, mom, for everything.